Why does marriage have seven-year itch?

Marriage is two people's things, or even two people's mutual adjustments, there is no blood relationship from the two people walked into a lot of people need an inclusive alien things, the marriage came from in love, from the strange alien coming, walk seven years, often fatigue, coupled with the temptation now lot of social and age, marriage, or even a four-year itch seven-year itch is now 80 and will even after the "flash marriage", we do not know what it was about marriage? If only for my own pleasure, and marriage is certainly not one that should be the choice, marriage is more of a responsibility, a career, a contract, a promise, a never sounded the "build-number." The face of seven-year itch should be the one we should adhere to, a patient, a wait. Reading the "golden" We understand more the meaning of marriage, but for now impetuous, young people, the consequences flash marriage only slowly in the future taste, and who, after all, the body composition, time to let any physical grind cocoon scar , you can let any novelty to become helpless.





Recently, for Germany's high divorce rate, the German state of Bavaria Fuerth City mayors Poly made a bold proposal: It is recommended in order to relief the cost of divorce, the marriage, a time limit of seven years, after marriage, automatic discharge, if you want to continue to maintain the marriage can be extended duration of the marriage. Her proposal is questionable, but the "Seven Year Itch" was familiar to the people. Half a century ago, the sexy film star Marilyn Monroe starred in the movie "The Seven Year Itch", as the film's aggressively use all remember this curse on love and marriage. People use it to describe the feelings of the world from the love in marriage, to the boring, tired, and finally fled the state of mind. Well, this has no scientific basis?



　Marriage itch

Well-known American psychologist, IBM's Visiting Professor of Psychology Sternberg had made his famous love triangle theory. In his view, love has three basic components: intimacy, passion and commitment. With the increasing awareness of time, as well as changes in the way to get along, love triangle shape and size change. The representative area of a triangle love the quality and quantity, "the larger triangle, love the more abundant." These three elements combined in different ratio, will be seven different types of love. To achieve complete with intimacy, passion and commitment of three kinds of components seventh love, marriage will be very stable. On the contrary, it may encounter "marriage of the itch." U.S. National Register music therapist, the China Central Conservatory of Music Music Therapy Master Instructor high days of marriage is a better description of the image of the crisis: the marriage is to constantly repeat the "same old story" mode: A (a woman complaining about) - B (male excuse) - C (woman angry) - D (men get angry) - E (new complained about a woman) - F (men new excuse), when the marriage into a state of such a vicious circle, then the marriage will move toward G (Marriage rupture). Suppose a cycle of one year to the seventh year that problem has not resolved, marriage crisis. Then, "Love's itch" Why is it that the seventh year that the people can not stand it?



Itch to seven years

HOU Yubo social psychology professor at Peking University, told the "International Herald Leader": "Marriage is a 'social contract', marital problems is the reason why the seventh year, is mainly based on the marriage cycle concerns. If the normal time, the seventh year just in time for the family and career maturity. there are families with children entering the seventh year of marriage, the children have grown up gradually, with its own independent capacity, both husband and wife have the energy to re-examine their marriage. And there are the temptations in society are more vulnerable to both husband and wife are the influence of others, leading to feel that their marriage problems. "Renmin University of China, Dean of socio-demographic Zhai Zhenwu is on the" International Herald Guide reported that "to express another point of view. In his view, the reason is a seven-year itch seven years, more of a statistics, precisely in the seventh year, when the number of separated or divorced are more. After marriage there will be a run-in period of 5 years to 10 years, the risks are relatively large period of seven years among some people may want a divorce, but after this stage, a solid marriage.



Itching of the crack

Human beings emotions different and very complex, "The Seven Year Itch" and not solely on science to explain clearly, but the "marriage itch" can also be quantified. The researchers will lead to a lot of love, marriage, marital intimacy weakening of the main reasons attributed to the following 10 points: (1) spatial separation; (2) new friends to replace his old friend; (3) gradually do not like the other behavioral or personality certain characteristics; (4) changes in the exchange of returns; (5) jealousy or criticism; (6) can not tolerate each other's relations with third parties; (7) leak; (8) need not take the initiative to help each other; ( 9) did not show confidence, positive, emotional support and other acts; (10) party preference criteria has changed. The researchers set up the reasons for each score of 2 points, when there are three reasons for the above integrated stacking up more than 6 points in time, it is easy for the close relationship between two people break occurred "marriage of the itch."



The divorce rate in accordance with the development trend of the world's view of human love may be shorter and shorter shelf-life period, and even a "four-year itch," but in any case people are willing to believe that as long as the husband and wife work together, "seven" will no longer be a great calamity