On the negative character traits sex life

On the negative character traits sex life(2008-04-03 12:24:01)
Tags:Gender Health


A person's sex life is the concentrated expression of a comprehensive psychological qualities. Many personality deficiencies can affect coordination and happy sex life. In other words, there are some people because of his personality there are certain shortcomings, not only with the current spouse ever had a bad sex life, but I am afraid that people are not co-ordinate with any sex life.

For such a person, the most important thing is not complaining about the other side, or the blind to learn sexual techniques, but first of all to strive to improve their own personality.

　　First: spoiled since childhood has been committed to themselves as the center. Such people often demanding the other side of sexual life.

The most common situation is that some people spoiled childhood has been committed to themselves as the center and therefore lack the ability to understand others, but do not know in life one should try to body mass people's weaknesses and shortcomings, it should be "forgive and forget . " Such people often demanding the other side of sexual life in the event of conflict, will not be ruthless struggle, do not take the initiative to make concessions and compromises, but also very difficult to learn in a short time. As more and more self-centered of the child, the situation in the near future may become a widespread and serious problem.

　Second: childhood living in the oppressive family or environment, they will appear in the sex life of the performance of the two extremes.

Common situation is that some people had grown up in oppressive family or social environment, psychological filled with dark colors. They will appear in the sex life performance of the two extremes. On the one hand, they are difficult to detect because of someone else's deep sense of inferiority, all manifestations of the other party will be overly sensitive whenever they consider themselves in sexual psychological hurt. But not willing to reveal to each other, because they tend to think it is a "begging." On the other hand, their self-esteem in order to protect is their own mind, often sexually with the offensive about his sex life, all is not happy and not suited to, were all to blame each other, or even to the other party to launch "jihad."

The common feature of these people is often used to disguise inferior assertive or aggressive, or indifferent to maintain self-esteem.

　　Third: the lack of a sense of security. As has encountered many setbacks, some people in the couples sex life is also a lack of adequate security.

As the road have encountered in life through all the setbacks, some people even in the husband and wife sex life is also a lack of adequate security, it seems that always worried about something, often the other side know what to do, really do not know how to caring and concern . Such a person is not necessarily self-esteem, but often suspicious. In today's social environment, they tend to heighten vigilance against the watched each other's every move in social interaction, fear of flying in one day "the third person." Once they think they found the clues, they will quarrel with indifference, or to warn each other. But if we really let them be a divorce, they will have worries, unwilling to lose the little bit of a sense of security now.

These personality flaws, for a happy sex life is extremely unfavorable, but the more adhere to the more negative. For the parties, the need of self-recognition and self-improvement, while the other will need to fully understand the situation currently facing, or go all out to for help, or "long-term pains better than short-term pain," determined to break up